One of the standout moments I got from listening to Kevin Hart’s audiobook The Decision is when he talked about judgment and criticism of other people: “Those that judge can’t do, and those that do don’t judge.” I think that is very true, at least in my case as a web designer and developer. I graduated college as a pharmacist. I didn’t study design or software engineering formally; most of what I’ve learned is from YouTube videos and online tutorials. In the early stages of my journey, I was very insecure about what I produced: “Is this good enough?” “Am I meant for this?” “I have a long way to go.” There were negative thoughts and imposter syndrome seeping in. They still come up from time to time, even now, after a couple of years since I started as a beginner. It’s not just about my professional work, like design and development, but also questions like “Am I doing it right as a business owner?” “Does my marketing and personal branding suck?” “I can’t seem to get quality clients no matter how hard I try.”

The best advice I can give to you and myself whenever those thoughts come up is to focus on yourself, take a quick look at how far you have come, and improve—perhaps by comparing your past work to your present work or looking at client testimonials. Most importantly, surround yourself with like-minded people who are on the same journey, whether they are just starting out or have achieved what you are trying to accomplish. There are lessons to be learned on both sides. The same thing can be applied to life. Those who know how hard it is to get there won’t judge you for trying and failing; they will encourage you to keep going. Be in love with teaching and passing the torch of your passion to others. Only those who can’t do—or didn’t even attempt to try—raise obstacles, doubts, and judgment on others. Be with people who can see the opportunities and effort you put into your work to build the project or future you want.

I’m lucky to have joined Jeffrey’s Lytbox Academy, where like-minded web designers and business owners encourage each other. I encourage you to find a community—online or offline—listen to podcasts or YouTube videos, leave comments, and share your thoughts. You will find your tribe and become better. Focus on yourself; as long as you are improving, you are on the right path. Ignore the naysayers.

There’s this video I saw mentioned a scene from Rick and Morty saying “Your boo means nothing to me, I’ve seen what makes you cheer,…every breath I take without your permission raises my self-esteem” – BARS!